Great Teachings…

27 08 2005

Image001TRUST is a very important
factor for all relationships. When trust is
 broken, it is the end of the
relationship. Lack of trust leads to
 suspicion, suspicion
generates anger, anger causes enmity and en
 may result in


We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of
losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to
find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should
always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four
fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we
forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too


There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife
and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband
and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind
and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover
that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


Many relationships
fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in
love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the
bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese
saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a
river than a person’s character."

It is
not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse
character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less
painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either
prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.
When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and
courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s
like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.


Different people
have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is

Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the
performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make
mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a
rage will haunt us forever.




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