Great Teachings…

27 08 2005

Image001TRUST is a very important
factor for all relationships. When trust is
 broken, it is the end of the
relationship. Lack of trust leads to
 suspicion, suspicion
generates anger, anger causes enmity and en
 may result in


We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of
losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to
find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should
always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four
fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we
forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too


There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife
and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband
and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind
and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover
that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.


Many relationships
fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in
love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the
bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese
saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a
river than a person’s character."

It is
not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse
character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less
painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..


There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either
prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.
When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and
courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s
like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.


Different people
have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is

Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the
performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make
mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a
rage will haunt us forever.


A matter of choice

21 08 2005

Immaturity is thinking that you have all the answers.
Wisdom is knowing that you don’t.

Weakness is wanting to control everything around you.
Strength is gracefully accepting and valuing what is.

Insecurity is the constant, gnawing desire to have more and
more. Confidence is knowing that you already are enough.

Failure is thinking that you can advance yourself by pushing
others down. Success is understanding that the more you lift
others up, the more you’ll be lifted yourself.

Despair is committing yourself to shallow, superficial
things that too soon will wither and die. Joy is filling
your world and your life with the things that truly

Every moment, you are fully capable of living with wisdom,
strength, confidence, success and joy. It’s not a matter of
chance, but always a matter of choice.

And you can make the choices now that will surely take you

Let your efforts flow

8 08 2005


Ttrying too hard can often be as unproductive as not trying at
all. Pushing yourself too hard sends an unspoken yet
powerful message that you lack confidence in your own

Instead of forcing your efforts, seek to simply let them
flow. Instead of being consumed with thoughts of how much or
how little progress you’re making, focus on the real
substance of the effort.

When you wander a little off track, there’s no need to
despair or to work yourself up over it. Put that energy into
pointing yourself back in the right direction.

Real progress will come at the pace at which you can give
yourself fully and sincerely to the effort. If you attempt
to rush the process, you may accumulate some meager tokens
of success, but you will fall short of achieving real
success itself.

Life already has enough pressures. There is no need to add
more by pressuring yourself. Relax and let your efforts
flow. That is how you can be your very best.

— Ralph Marston

Smile on Life

1 08 2005


Give the world a smile today. Smile at nothing
and it becomes something, something warm and precious to smile about.
Look at life with loving eyes. You’ll see so very much to love and to

Where life has been, and where it is going, converge in the moment that
is now. Give your best, be your best right now, for now is everything
with which you can work.

Think the most powerful, positive, uplifting thought you can imagine,
and ask yourself this. How can you express that positive power right

Smile on life with your own special smile, right now. And life will smile back in ways that will truly delight you.

— Ralph Marston